FIELD GUIDES
Field Guides
Practical tools for the inner life. Built for real conditions, not ideal ones.
TOOLS YOU’LL ACTUALLY USE
Tools you’ll actually use
A field guide is what you bring into the territory. Not a textbook. Not a lecture. Something you can open in the middle of it and still find useful.
Every guide here comes from clinical work and real conversations. Insight alone doesn’t change much. What changes things is having the right tool at the right moment, something that meets you where you are, not where you’re supposed to be.
NEW IN THE LIBRARY
New in the library
Attachment Inventory Workbook
A guided workbook for mapping where your attachment patterns came from, how they show up in your relationships now, and how to gently redraw them. Part of the Inner Work Starter Pack.
Vagus Nerve Exercises
38 nervous-system exercises organized into three plain-language, polyvagal-informed sections: Energy, Ease, and Connection. Part of the Nervous System Reset Bundle.
Feeding the Nervous System
A nervous-system-informed nutrition guide, in the same practical spirit as the Anti-Inflammatory Guide. Part of the Regulation & Resilience Bundle.
Breakup Survival Guide
Support for getting through a breakup, one honest step at a time. Part of the Love, Loss & New Beginnings Bundle.
Relationship Check-In
Structured scripts for raising a need without triggering defensiveness, a weekly check-in format, and a nine-step guide to deep listening. Part of the Couples Connection Toolkit.
Validate First
A two-step script, validate then support, for the ordinary big feelings and small meltdowns of a normal week. The everyday companion to the CALMER Method. Part of the Family Patterns & Parenting Bundle.
Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure
A daily practice for building secure attachment: the four things a child needs to feel from you, and small, repeatable ways to offer them. Part of the Family Patterns & Parenting Bundle.
SAVE WHEN YOU BUNDLE
Save when you bundle
Guides are built to work together. If you already know you’re going to want more than one, a bundle is priced lower than buying them separately.
Nervous System Reset Bundle
Be What You Need, the Affinity Emotion Ladder, Growing Your Core Self, Why You Disconnect, both IFS guides, and Vagus Nerve Exercises. The deepest, most complete somatic and parts-work library we offer in one bundle.
Inner Work Starter Pack
Growing Your Core Self, both IFS guides (the Practical Guide and the 6Fs), the Affinity Emotion Ladder, and the Attachment Inventory Workbook. A full entry point into parts work, attachment, and self-leadership.
Regulation & Resilience Bundle
The Wellness Wheel Workbook, the Affinity Emotion Ladder, Find Your Way to Contribution, Self-Compassion Handout, Your Personal Regulation Plan, and Feeding the Nervous System. For building a sturdier baseline, not just managing a crisis.
Family Patterns & Parenting Bundle
How Families Hold Their Shape, the CALMER Method, Validate First, and Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure. For understanding the patterns you grew up in, the ones you’re building now, and the daily and in-the-moment scripts that build a secure one.
Couples Connection Toolkit
Fused or Free?, Moving Toward Us, the Non-Violent Communication Letter Template, and the Relationship Check-In. The starting set for a couple who wants to build better habits before things get hard.
Reconnect and Play Bundle
Rupture & Repair, the Jar Date Activity, and the Intentional Dating Toolkit. For couples who want their relationship to feel less like maintenance and more like a place they actually want to be.
Love, Loss & New Beginnings Bundle
When Love Has No Place to Go (Yet), the Intentional Dating Toolkit, and the Breakup Survival Guide. For the ending, the in-between, and whatever opens up next.
Couples Conflict & Repair Toolkit
STILL & STEADY, Trust After a Breach, and the Non-Violent Communication Letter Template, plus Universal Attachment Needs and Are We There for Each Other? included at no extra cost. For couples working through an active rupture, not just tuning things up.
WHAT’S IN THE LIBRARY
What’s in the library
Workbooks for depth work, quick-reference guides for hard moments, couples activities, somatic tools, and resources for the specific kind of exhaustion that comes from caring deeply in a world that makes that difficult.
New guides drop regularly. The library is where you browse and find what fits where you are right now.
START HERE
Start here
Be What You Need: Somatic Awareness Guide
$42
A deep introduction to your nervous system states, embodied self-awareness, and learning to meet yourself with the kind of attunement most of us were never taught to offer ourselves.
This is where most people begin. It’s also the guide that tends to open everything else up, and the anchor of the Nervous System Reset Bundle if you already know you want more than one guide.
Included free with all coaching packages.
THE CREATE RESET COURSE
CREATE Reset: Returning to Self in a World That Pulls You Apart
Twelve days of nervous system literacy, somatic practice, and honest language for what you’ve been carrying. Built around the CREATE framework: Connect, Recognize, Explore, Align, Take Rooted Action, Embody and Evolve.
The point isn’t optimizing yourself. It’s understanding your patterns without shame, reconnecting with signals you’ve learned to override, and building capacity that actually holds.
Includes the Affinity Emotion Ladder Guide, a practical tool for identifying where you are emotionally and what you actually need at each level. More useful than “name your feelings.”
Days 1 to 3 are free. Days 4 to 12 are $67, or included free with any coaching package.
WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
What people are saying
“I’ve always said to Erica in our sessions that I wish she could put what she does in a bottle and sell it. These handouts are pretty close.”
“We used the Jar Date Activity for three months before our wedding. It completely changed how we made time for each other. We still use it.”
“I grew up thinking emotional needs were optional, I guess. Or maybe needy at times. Erica says that these needs are as universal as glucose or oxygen. This guide showed me how those unmet needs were showing up in my relationship in ways I couldn’t see before, and gave me a way to start meeting myself first. That reframe changed everything.”
“I didn’t expect a worksheet to actually move something in me. I’ve been in therapy for years and this helped me see my patterns in a way nothing else had.”
“I cried reading the Growing Your Core Self guide. Learning about the indigenous and universal roots of these ideas, and how much of that wisdom was stripped away from us, hit something deep in me.”
“This isn’t the kind of thing that sits in your downloads folder. I actually used it.”
All testimonials shared with permission and anonymized.
Already working with Erica?
Coaching clients get the Be What You Need Somatic Awareness Guide and the CREATE Reset Course included at no additional cost, along with discounts across the full Field Guides library. If you’re curious about coaching, the first conversation is free.
A FEW OF OUR MOST USED GUIDES
A few of our most used guides
The Jar Date Activity
For couples who want to bring novelty, play, and genuine presence back without making it feel like homework. Built on Esther Perel’s idea that desire needs aliveness, not grand gestures. Full curated list of date ideas across every format: stay-at-home, a few hours out, day trips, overnights, intimacy boosters.
Universal Attachment Needs
The eight things every human needs in relationship: attention, belonging, and more, what each one looks like met and unmet, and somatic tools for closing the gap when it’s not being met. A natural first stop before anything else in the library.
Growing Your Core Self
An expansive, embodied guide to Self-leadership, rooted in clinical frameworks and the indigenous and universal wisdom traditions that understood wholeness long before Western psychology had language for it. Some of what was stripped from us is recoverable. This is one way back.
FREE GUIDES
Free guides
Three resources, no purchase necessary. Just download.
How to Find an Affordable Therapist
What to look for, what to ask, what red flags to notice. The real version, not a directory link.
How to Get Your Out-of-Network Benefits
Most people leave money on the table because nobody explains how this works. This does.
Universal Attachment Needs
What all humans need in relationship, why those needs often go unspoken, and how to begin naming them.
THE THREAD RUNNING THROUGH ALL OF IT
These tools are personal. They’re also political.
Your patterns didn’t form in a vacuum. They formed in response to real conditions: the family you grew up in, the cultural messages you absorbed, the structures that decided what felt safe and what didn’t.
A few guides here go into that directly, how collective stress ends up living in individual bodies, how the culture around us shapes what we’re taught to need and taught to keep quiet about. Building real relationships and real community in the middle of all that isn’t just a personal nicety. It’s a way of pushing back on a world that does better when we stay disconnected from each other.
That thread runs through the library even when it’s not labeled.
WANT TO GO DEEPER
Want to go deeper?
The guides are entry points. If something opens up that feels bigger than a workbook can hold, that’s what the coaching and circles are for.
- 1:1 Coaching: deep, somatic, one-on-one work at your pace.
- Affinity Circles: small facilitated groups where the relational work happens in real time.
- CREATE Reset Course: the foundational 12-day course. Days 1 to 3 free. Includes the Affinity Emotion Ladder Guide.
New guides added regularly. Get on the list to hear when something new drops.
This content is educational and does not constitute therapy or a therapeutic relationship. If you are in crisis, please contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (call or text 988) or the Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741).